Firstly, I am so sorry you’re here.
If you’ve found your way to this page, chances are you’ve experienced a loss that has changed your life forever.
I wish I could tell you there was a roadmap for grief.
I wish I could tell you there was a timeline.
I wish I could tell you exactly how to get through it.
The truth is, I’m still learning too.
I’m not a counsellor, therapist, or grief expert.
I’m simply a wife who lost her husband, a mom helping two daughters navigate the loss of their dad, and a woman trying to find her way through life after loss.
The resources below are some of the things that have helped me, comforted me, or reminded me that I am not alone.
If you’re grieving too, I hope they bring you some comfort.
🤍 If You Need Immediate Support
If you are struggling, feeling overwhelmed, or having thoughts of harming yourself, please reach out to someone immediately.
South Africa
SADAG (South African Depression and Anxiety Group)
Suicide Crisis Helpline:
0800 567 567
SMS:
31393
WhatsApp:
076 882 2775
Website:
www.sadag.org
Remember:
You do not have to carry this alone.
🌿 Counselling & Professional Support
One of the most important decisions I made after losing my husband was starting counselling.
Counselling hasn’t taken away my grief, but it has given me a safe place to process it.
If you’re grieving, please don’t be afraid to ask for help.
There is strength in reaching out.
📚 Books That Have Helped Me
It’s OK That You’re Not OK
by Megan Devine
One of the most honest books I’ve read about grief.
The Grieving Brain
by Mary-Frances O’Connor
Helped me understand why grief affects us physically, emotionally, and mentally.
Healing After Loss
by Martha Whitmore Hickman
A beautiful daily companion filled with reflections and encouragement.
🎧 Podcasts & Listening
Terrible, Thanks For Asking
A podcast about grief, loss, and the realities of being human.
Grief Out Loud
Conversations about grief, healing, and navigating life after loss.
Anderson Cooper – All There Is
A powerful podcast about grief, memory, and love after loss.
🖤 Things That Have Helped Me
These are not solutions.
They don’t take the pain away.
But they have helped me keep putting one foot in front of the other.
- Counselling
- Journaling
- Writing my blog
- Talking about Noel
- Listening to music
- Spending time with my girls
- Letting myself cry when I need to
- Accepting that grief is not linear
- Giving myself grace on the difficult days
🌿 A Gentle Reminder
If you’re grieving right now, please know this:
There is no right way to do this.
You don’t have to be strong every day.
You don’t have to be okay.
You don’t have to have all the answers.
Take it one hour.
One day.
One breath at a time.
And if nobody has told you today:
You are doing better than you think.
🤍
Love,
Natalie
Still Here, Still Mom
